EP12: Designing Your Life with Janelle Lara

“It’s not black and white. It’s not you can only have a baby through IVF or naturally. It’s not that you work from home or become a stay at home mom...you can design whatever life you want, even if you’ve never heard of it before.” - Episode 12 (2:36 - 2:51)

The power is in your hands.

This was the topic for my latest episode of the FU Project podcast. You can listen here.

Imagine what it would feel like to spring out of bed in excitement for the day ahead. What would life look like? The exciting news is you actually have the power to manifest your dreams into reality! You are the architect, should you accept the amazing responsibility to design the blueprint of your life. If you don’t believe me, just ask Janelle Lara, founder of the Part-Time CEO. Janelle is a full-time mom and part-time business strategist/coach who knows you can have it all. Her belief is that all women, new moms, soon-to-be moms, and YOU have the power to build a life in alignment with the heart’s true desires.

I know this is a bit different than our usual topic of discussion here on the FU Project! But it is crucial for every woman wherever they are at on their fertility journey to understand the power within their hands. A power that you can embrace as an architect who listens, surrenders, trusts, and stands firm as you design the life of your dreams.

“When your options are limited, sometimes you end up creating something that is a lot more creative than you ever would’ve done before.” - Episode 12 (10:55 - 11:03)

Even if you haven’t allowed yourself to dream beyond the comforts of your reality, let’s wipe any mud off the windshield to see clearly ahead.

Begin to draw the blueprint for the life of your dreams in four steps.

  1. Listen to what is happening around you. The second your life takes an alarming turn and things don’t go according to plan, hold back from immediately thinking it’s all “wrong.” Naturally, you’ll want to complain, be pissed and cast blame. But these are the moments you should embrace and not dismiss! Life is not meant to be a linear path. The lows provide opportunities for growth and creativity that lead you to the next high. If you’re attentive enough, you may even catch hidden clues for a better life blueprint.

  2. Surrender to the universe. In between that rock and a hard place, God, the universe, your angels...they’re all trying to tell you something. Your options in moving forward are limited, and for good reason. The universe has something better in store. So where do you go now? Great question! First, stop and breathe. It’s okay if you don’t have the answers right now. While you may not know the final destination, you have clues. Shine a light and expose them to open yourself to the possibilities.

  3. Trust your instincts. Did you know you have a secret superpower? All women do! It’s a psychic knowing called the female intuition. Whether you believe in it or not, it’s that gut feeling that gives you a sense of the true underlying nature of anything or anyone. That’s your intuition giving you clues of which direction to head in. Listen to those emotional and physical signals and act accordingly.

  4. Set up and keep firm boundaries. I hate to break it to you, but as much as you may try to be Super Woman or Super Mom, you can’t be. I’m not saying you can’t get close! But where exactly are you choosing to spend your limited amount of time and energy? Is that even where you really want to focus your attention? As you begin to recognize the direction you should head in, engage in the activities that will nurture a forward momentum. Set firm boundaries that protect your time and energy. Don’t let others step over or violate what you have in place. Stick to your guns! You’re not meant to be a people pleaser. You’re on a mission to find and fulfill your greater purpose.

“The sooner that you can listen to the signs, surrender to them, and know that this is the down that will propel you up so you can see more clearly, the sooner you can reach the life of your dreams.” - Episode 12 (37:07 - 37:24)

You can design the life of your dreams. If you’re really unsure, then consider all your options!

There is not one way and one way alone to conception.

There is not one career choice best suited for a mother.

You can pick and choose according to what’s best for you and your family. The sky's the limit and the universe wants to help. So stay on the lookout for any clues along the way that will guide you in the right direction. When the path seems overwhelming, impossible, or outrageous, have faith. Especially when your gut says yes. Focus your eyes ahead and stay selective and protective of where you spend your limited time and energy. The more you open yourself to possibility the more conscious you become of what you can actually achieve. But don’t take my word for it! It’s time for you to take hold of your power.

Become the architect of your life today and design the life of your dreams!

With thanks & love,


How to get involved
If you would like more information about The FU Project and my mission to get you pregnant so much faster and smarter than I did, please check out my website.

If you would like to find out more about how Janelle helps moms achieve the career they desire, while working part-time hours, visit her website.

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