If you want a baby, then let yourself want it. Want it with all your heart and be fearless about it. Desire moves us towards what we want.” - Episode 11 (25:13-25:31)
Your body is always working for you.
This was the topic for my latest episode of the FU Project podcast. You can listen here.
Often women who are trying to get pregnant feel shame about their body and believe that it’s broken and working against them. In reality, your body is trying to do everything right. You just need to get out of the way and let it do what it was created to do.
Chris Axelrad runs the Axelrad Clinics in Houston. He is an extremely talented acupuncturist and herbalist for those trying to conceive. He’s written the book, Awakening the Seed, which is a compilation of the knowledge and wisdom he has acquired over the years from treating fertility issues, not just on a physical level, but on an emotional and spiritual level as well.
In his work with thousands of women with fertility issues, Chris started looking for ways to simplify the process so that his clients could do the focus on the most important things that would lead to the most optimal egg quality in the shortest amount of time.
“Your body will always feel okay with you getting pregnant as long as it knows it has the surplus energy to support a pregnancy.”
- EP11 (15:23-15:36)
We often wonder why younger women get pregnant who don’t have the same level of self-care as those who are older and trying to get pregnant. When a person reaches their late twenties and early thirties, their level of surplus energy starts to naturally decrease. It takes longer to restore their energy than when they were younger. Getting enough rest, sleep, and the right nutrients is essential to the regenerative and restorative process.
Fertility is just a surplus energy equation, that’s it. It’s mostly about slowing down and calming down.
Slowing down and calming down is far easier said than done. The fertility struggle triggers deep primal fears that you’re going to die if you don’t have a baby. After all, babies are how the human race survives. But, when you’re constantly discharging energy with the high-intensity emotion that comes from this fear, the energy won’t be able to go to the eggs. Finding meditations, like some that can be found in Chris’ book, can help to calm your nervous system so it isn’t discharging so much energy.
Fear is a high-powered, negative and repelling force. Desire, on the other hand, is an attracting force that generates love, positivity, gratitude, and abundance that moves us toward what we want.
Love and the Fertility Journey
Wanting a baby is a beautiful thing, because what one actually wants when they want a baby is to experience unconditional love. We remember the unconditional love from when we were babies and we want that again.
You don’t have to wait to have a child to experience unconditional love. You can start giving it to yourself now.
Instead of saying, “When I have the baby, then …” say,
“I love myself right now. I care for myself. I’m kind to myself. I’m merciful with myself. I forgive myself. I feel grateful that I’m here and there are no conditions on that. Even though I’m not pregnant yet, even though, even though, even though … I love myself just like I would love my baby.”
When your mind and heart are filled with unconditional love for you first, it has a positive effect on your eggs. The most powerful fertility “drug” is self-directed loving kindness which transforms your energy into something that is actually medicinal for your eggs. It’s even more powerful than any drug, because your body’s own innate native chemistry is the most powerful drug there is.
There are things you can do to help speed up the fertility process, such as supplements, IVF, medications, and dietary and lifestyle changes. But if you only do this one thing - care deeply about yourself, nurture yourself, love yourself, and be kind to yourself - everything else will fall into place.
One of the best things you can do on this journey, is to find someone to walk alongside you to offer support and guidance. In my work with women, I have grown even more confident in the knowledge that women can get pregnant more quickly, and have successful pregnancies more often when they are not trying to figure it all out alone.
“This fertility thing is not something you have to learn how to do. The wisdom is already encoded within you. The only thing that I do is help people express that wisdom in less time than they probably would if they were doing it all by themselves.” - EP11 (38:09-38:29)
In the last part of Chris’ book, he provides a self-assessment to help you understand the dominant areas of your body that are having trouble finishing the work that they want to do. The book also contains information about just a few supplements to focus on. With this information, between 60-70% of his clients are getting pregnant. This stuff really works.
With thanks & love,
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